Changing Patterns Newsletter
Making Conscious Choices
January 2008 Volume VII
In This Issue
Living without regrets
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I hope the year has started out well for you and your Holidays allowed you special times with those most important to you.

 

In this issue, we address living life fully and adopting a mindset of embracing each day with appreciation.   Whatever our given circumstances, the one thing that cannot be taken from us is our attitude.  I hope this month's article inspires you to adopt an attitude of embracing each day with gratitude and living without regrets!

 

Bonnie

Living without regrets!

 

As some of you know, I enjoy country music!  Despite the reputation of more traditional country music lyrics being about love gone bad, and drowning sorrows in beer drinking, I appreciate the more contemporary lyrics that reflect real life.

 

One of my favorite songs is by Tim McGraw called "Live like you were dying" from 2004.  It's about a man in his early 40's who discovers he is dying and how this news changed how he lived the rest of his life.  It is an inspiring perspective of how the devastating news prompted the man to start doing things he had put off before he knew he had a limited time to live.  Things such as sky diving, rocky mountain climbing, extending forgiveness, "I loved deeper and I spoke sweeter".

 

What would your life be like by January, 2009 if you decided to begin today to truly "live like you were dying"?  How would your day to day life change if you lived each day as if it were your last?  Would you treat your loved ones differently?  How would you spend your time?  When you had an argument with your spouse or one of your kids, would you wait for them to admit they were wrong or would you set your pride aside and make the first move?  As Tim McGraw sings would you "become a friend a friend would like to have?"

 

It can be so easy to take life for granted - that we are going to wake up tomorrow, that "someday" will come to patch up a hurting relationship, that loved ones will always be there to tell them what they mean to us.  If we are going to truly "live like we were dying", we need to adapt a mindset of facing the things that tend to hold us back from embracing life and living each day fully.  In this way, we would act more on our hopes, and less on our fears.
   

When I was in the midst of deciding whether to be in my own business full-time, my fears surfaced of whether I would make it.  I weighed the risks, did as much planning as I could until ultimately I needed to make a decision.   The pivotal point came when a trusted Colleague asked me these questions "If you don't do this, will you regret never having tried and never know whether you could make it, what will you miss out on if you allow your fears to overcome you?"   What decision are you facing that you may regret if you allow fear to hold you back from taking action?

 

Grow outside of your comfort level, live without
regrets, and your hopes can be realized!

Relationship Dynamics Class  
 

"Manage Your Mind, Manage Your Stress!"

 

Tuesday, March 4, 2008 from 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm

 

Do you struggle with managing day to day stress?

Do you tend to respond with an automatic, negative reaction when feeling overwhelmed?

Do you have difficulty focusing and unable to complete tasks?

Would you like tools to settle your thoughts when feeling anxious?

 

This class will identify ways that we can better manage our everyday stress by understanding our thoughts and feelings.  Participants will learn how to control negative reactions and leave with a specific tool via CD that will assist in reducing stress and feeling calmer with whatever comes your way.

 

The Speaker for this class is Tony Pacione, LCSW.  Tony is well-respected in the Behavioral Health and Addictions field.  He has spoken at Changing Patterns in the past and has been well received.  Tony is currently Program Manager for Addiction Services at St. Joseph's Hospital in Chicago, IL.

 

           Held at 150 Houston Street, Suite 300, Batavia, IL  60510

                           March 4, 2008 from 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm

 

 Registration is required for the Relationship Dynamics classes.  Please

 call Bonnie at 630-406-0075 by Friday February 29, 2008 to register. 
 
Class fees are 
$35/person or $60 per couple
 
Next Relationship Dynamics Class will be held on Tuesday, June 3, 2008 - The Unspoken Dance of Power
 

Things I Learned from Changing Patterns

 

"After being on the brink of divorce, my husband and I sought out Changing Patterns to see if there was any hope for our relationship.  What neither of us expected was to encounter someone as kind and helpful as Bonnie.  With her help, my husband and I were able to rekindle a love that I thought was gone.  Our family has never been happier and we have the tools to weather any storm.  We are truly thankful for all that we have learned and know that we can now look back on our rocky road and see how far we've come.  We will never regret that period in our relationship because we know that it has made us the people that we are today. Changing Patterns truly changed our way of thinking and our outlook on life.  Thank you!"    

 

Corrine and John

News:
 

Looking for a Speaker?  Bonnie speaks to groups who want to enhance family relationships and live with purpose and meaning.  Her presentations offer practical tools to create harmonious family relationships covering topics such as conflict resolution, restoring marital friendship, and living without regrets.  If you are looking for someone to speak at an event, a presentation can be tailor made to fit your needs.  Bonnie can be reached by phone at 630-406-0075, by email at changingpatterns@yahoo.com, or her website www.changingpatterns.net.

 

 
Quote of the Month

 

Dance as if no one were watching,

Sing as if no one were listening,

Live every day as if it were your last

                                               

                                              Author Unknown

 

                                                                                       
Sincerely,
 
Bonnie Artman
Changing Patterns, PC